Recently, I saw an interview with Rihanna and Oprah (which you probably have all seen), and Rihanna says she is still in love with Chris Brown. She says she felt so bad because she had lost a best friend, and that he would need her because everyone felt like he was the villain and nobody else would help him. We all have to remember that Chris Brown beat Rihanna up a while back, and no matter what she did or didn't do, she did not (and nobody) deserves that treatment.
I had never liked Rihanna. I felt her music perpetuated dangerous sexual scenarios, was vulgar and degrading to women (not freeing), encouraged girls to act like an object men could use the way they want, and told girls that abusive relationships and hooking up were things that didn't need much thought after all. I thought she talked, dressed, and danced inappropriately. To be honest, I still feel this way. But I didn't even feel that sorry for her because I thought it was all just a show and a way to make money at the expense of young girls.
In that Oprah interview, though, I saw someone different. I didn't see this hardcore "I can do anything a boy can do" sexualized Rihanna. I saw a hurt, used, sad, confused little girl. I saw someone who is broken like everyone else. She didn't turn into the girl in her music videos overnight. Ribanna went through whatever she did as a child and young adult to become the person who didn't see her value, didn't see her real God-given beauty, didn't see the type of man she should be with and almost got killed because of it.
I think as girls, we need to stop being such haters. Girls are the way the are because of the experiences that happened to them. The person you see on the outside is probably very different from the person on the inside. It doesn't mean you have to like what they do or even the person them self, but don't be mean to them. Don't say things in anger and jealousy. Just smile at them, pray for them, and ask yourself, "I wonder what she went through?"
Have you ever had an eye-opening experience about someone?
P.S. Are the results for the poll on the left showing up for you guys? I know that they had been working yesterday when I checked so it may just be a fluke.
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