Thursday, November 29, 2012

Thoughts: Confidence

Today my loves we are talking about confidence.
Talking about confidence can be scary, I know.  A lot of people have so many insecurities that trying to be confident can actually be just another insecurity for them.  However, confidence is something you need to grasp a hold of as soon as you can.  It can take a while to build confidence, but as long as you're working on it that's what matters.  I know a lot of people do posts or videos about confidence (confidence, confidence, confidence - I'm going to be saying this word so much lol), so I want to give you the Lydia outlook on it. :)

1.  Identify what you are insecure about.  For most girls, and some guys even, it's outward attractiveness that gets them the most upset about themselves.  For others, it's something about themselves like not being very outgoing or feeling that they come across as too overbearing.  Whatever it is, WRITE THAT SUCKER DOWN.  Admit to yourself, "Yeah.  This is something I feel really insecure about and consider one of my flaws."  Own it girl, own it.

2. Pick some things that you like about yourself.  It may only be one thing, but choose it.  Your hair color, your personality, your eyes, your little toe's nail, whatever.  Write down some things that you like about yourself.

3. Now go back to what you are insecure about and find something about that insecurity that you can be confident in.  For example, say you are insecure about your ears.  Say something to yourself like, "Yep, I'm insecure about my ears because I think they are too big.  But I'm confident about the fact that I'm a really good listener with them."  See?  Now you have something about them that you like.  You can go on to name the things about your ears that you are thankful for, too.  "I'm thankful that I have ears.  I'm thankful that I'm not deaf.  I'm thankful that I have long hair to cover them if I want."  Also remember that as far as outward appearances go, people see you as a whole, not a bunch of parts (or they shouldn't - if they do they're really weird o.O).  Remind yourself that body parts serve a function greater than just being the prettiest - they're for eating, hearing, talking, smelling, seeing, touching, walking, holding, etc.

After you've done that last step for everything you are insecure about, you'll actually find that a lot of the things you are insecure about are pretty insignificant and you may actually begin to LIKE that unique characteristic.  And even if you are still convinced that what you are insecure about is ugly or whatever, you'll have to admit that there are a lot more good things about that flaw than there are bad.  I'm going to do another post dedicated to haters (hey y'all ;D), so keep an eye out for that.

How do you stay confident?


Brooklyn Mae said...

Beutiful post, Lydia! I stay confident by thinking of a bible verse.
You are altogether beautiful, my darling;there is no flaw in you. Song Of Songs 4:7

Katherine said...

Great post and I stay confident by reading and thinking of good bible verses! =)

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Great post,I always try to stay confident,ignoring people's opinion and negative toughts,just doing my thing and belive that I'm doing the right thing :) would you like to follow each other via bloglovin and gfc? I will be very happy if you also check out my blog :)
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This is an area I need to work on... I'm not very confident :(..

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